let it be.

Something I have noticed recently about people I have had conversations with, is that lots of people have this strong desire to control or supervise people they care about. They are so afraid to let go of one another in fear that they might do something hurtful, so instead they try to direct other's behavior. But the way I see it, is it's much more rational and helpful if you simply give no direction at all. Just let the person act naturally and they will show who they truly are, whether it's a good result or a bad result. It's the only way to truly know who someone is, just simply let them be who they are, let them show you. I'm not saying I don't understand why people have trouble doing this or what makes them want to yell or scream (nor do I want to act like I have never done this myself. But it's definitely a better decision just to simply step back and allow the other person to live without you're supervision.)

There is no blueprint to life that you have to follow, and things will eventually work out if you hold up your end. That's how I live my life, I try to make the right decision always even if I know that no one will find out. It's not worth it to me, because if you do something correct 90% of the time, and then falter the last 10%, those 10% will get exposed and erase all of your previous noble actions. The only person you have control of is yourself, so why worry about controlling things that are out of your control? It does not make sense when you think about it, so just try to hold up your end in life and make the right decisions. Nothing can defeat pure good.